It would be very easy right now for you to make really rash decisions to try to save your marriage. However, doing this will definitely cause more harm than good to your already fragile situation, simply because you are letting your emotions drive you to do things that you shouldn’t.
If your marriage has been a little rocky in recent months, then there is a very good chance that things are really tense between you and your spouse. You will very likely try to pin the blame onto each other, which will only cause more hard feelings between the two of you.
Of course it is very important that you talk to each other about the issues in your marriage, but you will need to plan this carefully so as to avoid any more unpleasantness. As there is probably a tense atmosphere in your home right now, it would be a good idea for you and your spouse to go away for a few days.
Apart from this having a calming effect on both you and your spouse, it is very possible that it will bring back good memories for you, and you could very well enjoy your time together. The whole aim of this time away together is to ensure that you can have a relaxed discussion about the troubles in your marriage and what you need to do to rectify them and save your marriage.
Don’t only talk about your problems though, as this will cause a very negative atmosphere between you and your spouse. Make a point of talking about all the good things in your time together as well. Reminisce about the days you started dating, when you decided to get engaged, as well as the fabulous wedding you had and how happy you were then. You will both realize just how much there is to lose if you don’t try to save your marriage.
Sometimes, with the pressures of everyday life, the good times are forgotten – revive them again – they can only make your decisions that much easier. You will probably find that talking about all the good times you had together will make it a lot easier to discuss your problems, as well as make you and your spouse more willing to fix them, so that you can save your marriage.